(Relationship mindset coach and intimacy expert, mentor to coaches, speaker, workshop presenter, blogger, popular repeat podcast guest)
As a former Apple engineer turned international sex and intimacy educator and relationship coach, I’m now celebrating my 25th year of helping couples co-create a thriving, fulfilling, resilient life partnership and a gourmet love life. Over the years my work has garnered mentions in Business Insider, Playboy, Tim Ferriss’s 4-Hour series, Cosmopolitan, and elsewhere.
I’ve taught workshops of 12 to 250+ and spoken to live audiences of up to 1,200. I’ve written for The Good Men Project, Better Humans, Sexography, and my own Medium publication The Craft Of Intimate Coupledom. As of 2025 I have a combined reach of 15k followers on Facebook, Instagram, and Medium. I’ve been asked back for repeat appearances on multiple podcasts.
This year I’m giving extra attention to couples who are contemplating lifelong commitment, helping them understand the fundamental difference between a “promising” relationship and a joyful, collaborative, no-regrets life partnership. I help them see what’s possible for them, and what would be required of each of them to have that, so they can have the clarity they need to commit fully… or break up amicably.
You never have to compromise in your relationship.
Jealousy comes in three flavors.
Married sex can be better than dating sex.
Relationships don’t have to feel like work.
There’s no such thing as emasculation, or the friend zone.
You can co-create a better relationship than you can envision.
The truth about men wanting sex and women wanting love is way more interesting than you think.
Anger isn’t dangerous.
Your relationship can be generative, not depleting.
The problem isn’t you or your partner, it’s your relationship template.
THE POINT IS… If conventional relationship wisdom held the answers, it would have worked by now. I provide a fresh, thought-provoking, and highly effective take on what makes intimate relationships tick, what makes them crash, and what makes them thrive, based on over 25 years as a full-time relationship and intimacy advisor to couples. Your audience is sure to be both surprised and inspired by what they hear. Podcast hosts often tell me our episode is among their audience’s favorites—and back it up by inviting me back for a second or third visit. Together, let’s shift the global conversation around sex, love, and committed coupledom
Topics I Can Discuss:
I think great conversations can be sparked by anything the interviewer is genuinely interested or curious about regarding love, intimacy, and partnership. I also love talking about:
– What makes a relationship feel like “work,” vs. “flow”
– Is your relationship generative—both people getting more than they put in—or draining?
– How to deal with jealousy. (Hint: it depends on whether it’s envy, insecurity, or possessiveness)
– How to have a sex life that gets progressively better over time
– How to transition from sex based on the dynamics of consent to desire and connection based sex
– Dealing with strong emotions (e.g. anger) without causing wreckage
– How to “open” your relationship successfully
– Why the idea that “men want sex and women want love” might actually be backward
– Why Masculine/Feminine-based models are failing, and probably can’t be salvaged—and what might be a better approach
– How emotions evolved (and why it matters)
– You never have to compromise in relationship
– There’s no such thing as “emasculation”
10 Interview Questions You Can Ask Me
Good jumping off questions for a lively discussion:
– Can couples have a mutually enjoyable love life over the long term? How?
– What’s your advice for couples who are prone to fighting or arguing?
– What do you think about the growing trend of couples “opening” their relationship? Is that crazy or feasible?
– How do you deal with jealousy?
– Why do some relationships feel like work, or just draining, and others feel generative?
– They say “men want sex and women want love.” You say that’s backwards. Why?
– What do you think is more important—the checklist, or the connection?
– Any advice for single people looking for a relationship?
– What are your thoughts on Masculine/Feminine polarity?
– What are the most common questions or issues you work with couples on when it comes to sex, and how do you answer them?
I use wireless in-ear earphones and an external shotgun mic.
