John Kim, LMFT (The Angry Therapist) pioneered the online life coaching movement seven years ago, after going through a divorce which led to his total re-birth. He quickly built a devoted following of fans who loved the frank and authentic insights that he freely shared on social media. He pulled the curtain back and showed himself by practicing transparency and sharing his story something therapists are taught not to do. Kim became known as an unconventional therapist who worked out of the box by seeing clients at coffee shops, on hikes, in a CrossFit box. He built a coaching team of his own and launched a sister company called JRNI, creating a new way to help people help people and change the way we change. He lives in Los Angeles.
Author John Kim is known as “The Angry Therapist.” In his new book: book I USED TO BE A MISERABLE F***: An Everyman’s Guide to a Meaningful Life (HarperOne) – John explores the questions of what it is to be a man in today’s society. He creates an important dialogue and covers essential topics, from vulnerability and posturing to workouts and women.
Kim’s goal is to encourage men to “think about who you are now and who you want to be…I’m not here to lecture you. I’m coming with you, not at you. Talking to you like one of my friends—the men I sweat with, eat with, ride motorcycles with, get crepes and share…feelings with. Yes, real men eat crepes.”
As Kim explains:
• boys typically find their models for manhood in their fathers.
• we are living in a fatherless nation: too many boys are left without adequate role models or coping skills to deal with life’s various issues.
• the result is that out of the 45,000 people who commit suicide each year, 79% of them are men. And men aren’t the only victims; women and children suffer all too often at the hands of men. The cycle continues onto the next generations as one out of five teenage girls reports that she has been in an abusive relationship.
This doesn’t mean that all hope is lost. Kim draws on his own very personal experiences, not just as a therapist, but as a man, to help men unlock that trapped potential. As he explains, Kim went through a devastating divorce, and it was during some deep soul searching afterwards that he came to an astonishing realization: he was miserable and likely to blame for the problems in his life.
Armed with this new insight, Kim began The Angry Therapist blog – an admission that, while he was a licensed therapist and life coach, he was no better than the people who sought his advice.
Kim can discuss:
• how to live like men
• the definition and importance of transparency and strength of character, not six-pack abs or a corner office.
• how to discovery all facets of a man’s life and being, including self-image, health issues, communication, love and relationships, and career and business.
• how the transition from misery to meaning is an internal process that requires work: reflection, pain, courage, and sometimes, a rebirth.
• how to love hard, walk tall, and find a life filled with purpose and passion.
Kim’s Do’s and Don’t include:
• Do be vulnerable
• Don’t be a douche, don’t be a bully, and don’t whine
• Don’t choose passion over purpose
• Do participate in self-care
• Don’t get trapped in your bubble, don’t stay in your comfort zone, and don’t take yourself too seriously
• Do go on man dates, and also do some things on your own
• Do admit when you were wrong or when you don’t know the answer to something.
• Don’t pee in the shower
• Don’t stop courting your partner
• Do create your own definition of success instead following the definitions of others.
• Do separate who you are from what you do
• Do make your bed
• Don’t be afraid to fail
• Do try to understand before being understood
Landline, cell phone, headset, microphone
I am available now. And can also go in studio if in the LA area.
